Should I Text Her Again?

If she looks this good, text her back…

Should I text her again, or wait for her to text me? This is a question guys around the world ask every day and I wanted to give you the answer in this short blogpost.

Guys wonder a lot of different things about texting girls…. They often wonder whether they should text her or just call her up on the phone, whether they should text her the day after a date with her or if they should let her text them… The questions go on and on.

Why do guys ask these questions? Because they want to seem cool so that they can get the girl to meet up with them again of course! Trust me, I used to ask myself the same questions all the time, and it is smart to be a bit strategic here so that you come off looking as cool and desirable as possible to the chick that you are trying to get with.

So, I’m going to answer these questions today to the best of my ability… Starting with examining whether you should text her, or wait for her to text you. Here are the determining factors…

1) Did you text her last?

Generally speaking texting should work like a zipper. First you text her, then she texts you, then you text her, then she texts you and so on. So sending her two or more texts in a row would basically screw up the zipper and we don’t want that, now do we! So if you were the last person to text her then you should almost always just play it cool and wait for her to text you back or else you may seem to be a bit too needy and anxious and that’ll scare a girl away quick. So, in that case, no don’t text her. Wait for her to text you, unless one of the following is true:

2) Has it been more than 2 days since you heard from her?

So lets say that you texted her, you didn’t hear back, so you decide to chill and wait for her to make the next move. But, then you notice that the days are starting to roll past and low and behold this chick just ain’t textin’. WTF right? Okay, in this situation then it is okay to break the “zipper rule” because otherwise she might move on and then you wouldn’t get to see her again and that would suck. So, if it’s been a couple days and you are trying to get something lined up with her in the near future then you should definitely do what you’ve got to do (text her) in order to get back in touch…

3) Were you waiting to hear back about something important.

Another good reason to break the zipper rule is if you are waiting to hear back from a girl regarding something important and/or time sensitive. For instance if you were making plans for tomorrow and she said that she had to check something and that she would text you right back, but then you don’t hear from her and you need to solifify plans with her or make other plans then you should get in touch and get her to commit, so you don’t just leave things up in the air.

Now this all assumes that the last time that you’ve only texted her ONCE since her last reply. If you have sent her 2,3,4 or more texts since the last time you spoke to her checkout this other post I wrote about what to do if a girl stops responding to your texts.


I also wanted to quickly address two other common questions guys have about texting her back:

A) Should I text her or just call her up on the phone?

This entirely depends on the situation, how you know the girl in question, etc… I f she is a girl that you are already dating/sleeping with then you hopefully will know the answer to this one yourself based upon what she has responded to better in the past, whetehr she is a big time texter and so forth. if it is a girl that you just met and you are trying to get a date with for the first time then you should call her up like a man… Of course, if you get her voice mail, and you very well might. then just send her a text rather than leaving a message.

B) Should I text her the day after a date?

Again, if you are just starting to date her, then you should try calling her up rather than texting her. However whether you call or text the very next day after a date or whether you wait a day or two all depends on how you two got along on the first date. If you had a night of wild and amazing love making then you should probably get in touch soon afterwards to reassure her that she made a good decision by hooking up with you. However if the date was just kind of average, then you might want to hang back for a minute and give her a chance to miss you.

I hope this stuff helps. If you want more texting gold be sure to watch this rather remarkable video…

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